Coaching practices for Start with Why Trust Building

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• With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• Things have gotten hard and there’s a real temptation to quietly set aside the very principle I built this whole thing on
• I’ve got an announcement to make and I’m about to do what I always do
• I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front

Practices that may help

1. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
2. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
3. The Trust Equation, Made Practical
   The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
4. Maintain Why consistency across boom and crisis
   The Why is tested not in good times but when it is costly to uphold — that is when it either becomes real or becomes revealed as rhetoric.
   Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose
5. Communicate inside out: Why → How → What
   Lead with the belief, then the approach, then the specifics — the reverse of the typical pitch order.
   Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose
6. The Trust Triangle
   Charles Feltman’s Trust Triangle (from The Thin Book of Trust) identifies four distinct assessments that together constitute trust: sincerity (I mean what I say), reliability (I do what I say), competence (I have the ability to do what I say), and care (I have your interests at heart). Trust breaks down when any one of these assessments fails — and repairing trust requires identifying which assessment was damaged.
7. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
8. Signal credibility without claiming it
   Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
9. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
   Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
   The Trust Triangle
10. Build reliability through small, visible commitments
    Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical

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