Coaching practices for Stated vs Enacted Values
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Stated vs Enacted Values, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m not sure my stated values are real or just the ones I think I should have
- I say I value family, or health, or creativity
- I’ve done all the clarifying and ranking and I have this lovely list of values
- I want to pin down the few things I most want to have stood for when I look back at my whole life
- I know what matters to me in the abstract, but it stays a nice idea
Practices that may help
- Excavate your actual values from your history
Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Values clarification through lived evidence
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice - Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism. - Take value-consistent committed action
Translate each value into one concrete behavior you can do this week.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Write a values declaration as the core of your legacy letter
Name the two to four values you most want to have lived by — then write why they matter to you.
The Legacy Letter: Writing What You Want to Leave Behind - Committed action: making specific, values-linked behavioral commitments
Translate a value into a specific, observable action you commit to this week.
Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical - Values clarification: what matters most to you?
Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical - The values–behavior gap check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
Values Card Sort - Make core values operational, not decorative
Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus - Rank your top values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Values Clarification, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Espoused Vs Enacted Values
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
- Enacted Values Vs Stated Values
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Values clarification through lived evidence
- Act Values List
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
- Acting On Values
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
- Ethical Will Values
Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
Values clarification: what matters most to you?
- Living By Your Values
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
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