Coaching practices for Stop Avoiding Feelings
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
- Every instinct I have right now is telling me to cancel, to hide, to not pick up the phone
- There’s this thing I keep dodging
- I spend so much energy trying to push down or get rid of what I feel, and it just comes back stronger
Practices that may help
- Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Opposite action
When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Approach when fear says avoid
When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Acceptance (willingness)
Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Practice willingness to carry discomfort
Treat the presence of discomfort as neutral data, not a stop sign.
Committed Action, Made Practical - Surf the urge to avoid instead of obeying it
Treat the avoidance impulse as a wave to observe and outlast, not a command to obey.
Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth - A — Allow the experience to be as it is
Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical - Confront avoidance with compassionate courage
Do the hard thing — the difficult conversation, the scary action — because you care about your future self.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Avoidance To Action
Before committing to a behavior, ask whether it moves toward or away from your stated values.
Values compass check: is this action moving toward or away?
- Emotional Avoidance
Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
- When Expressive Suppression Costs Reappraisal As Alternative
Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
- When Values Based Action Values Compass Check
Before committing to a behavior, ask whether it moves toward or away from your stated values.
- Why Do I Numb Out Avoid Feeling Emotions
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Stop numbing vulnerability
- Emotional Acceptance
Accept that something happened without approving of it, pretending it’s fine, or treating it as deserved.
Distinguish acceptance from approval
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