Coaching practices for Why Do I Numb Out or Avoid Feeling My Emotions and How Do I Stop

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  • The second something gets uncomfortable I reach for the phone or the wine or just more to do, and lately I’ve noticed the good stuff has gone flat too
  • I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
  • I keep trying to shove this feeling down or talk myself out of it, and the harder I fight it the worse it gets
  • With feelings it’s all or nothing for me
  • The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it

Practices that may help

  1. Stop numbing vulnerability
    Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
    Daring Greatly, Made Practical
  2. Give yourself permission to feel
    Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
  3. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
    Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
    RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
  4. Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
    Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
    Interoception, Explained
  5. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
    Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical
  6. Opposite action
    When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  7. Regular emotional check-in
    Set aside a few minutes each day to honestly ask what you are actually feeling right now.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
  8. Acceptance (willingness)
    Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
    Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
  9. Label discomfort precisely before acting on it
    Naming what kind of discomfort you feel reduces its power to drive avoidance automatically.
    Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
  10. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
    Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical

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