Coaching practices for Strengths Based Leadership After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Where I come alive is in the human glue
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• I’m at my best when I’m getting a room aligned and fired up
• Even when something goes really well I brush it off as luck or good timing, so the win never actually counts toward believing in myself
• It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died

Practices that may help

1. Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
   Strengths-based leadership, developed by Tom Rath and Barry Conchie building on Gallup’s decades of manager research, holds that the most effective leaders invest in their own strengths and build teams whose combined strengths cover all four leadership domains — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking. Gallup’s correlational research consistently finds that strength-focused teams report higher engagement and performance, though the causal direction is not fully established.
2. Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
   People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
   Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
3. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
4. Lead from the influencing domain — take charge, speak up, make sure others are heard
   People strong in influencing sell the team’s ideas inside and outside the organization.
   Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
5. Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
   Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
   Mastery Experiences
6. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
7. Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
   As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
8. Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
   When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
9. Identify your dominant leadership strengths — and lead from them
   Know which of the four leadership domains you naturally operate from and amplify it rather than trying to be equally strong in all four.
   Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
10. Name the genuine benefits — without erasing the cost
    List specific real positives that came from a hard experience while still acknowledging what it cost.
    Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity

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