Coaching practices for Strengths Based Leadership During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Where I come alive is in the human glue
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
- I’m at my best when I’m getting a room aligned and fired up
- I keep forcing myself to lead the way I think a leader is supposed to, even when it cuts against my grain, and I can’t actually name what I’m naturally good at
- My team is looking to me to read how bad things really are, and I’m stuck
Practices that may help
- Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
Strengths-based leadership, developed by Tom Rath and Barry Conchie building on Gallup’s decades of manager research, holds that the most effective leaders invest in their own strengths and build teams whose combined strengths cover all four leadership domains — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking. Gallup’s correlational research consistently finds that strength-focused teams report higher engagement and performance, though the causal direction is not fully established. - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Lead from the influencing domain — take charge, speak up, make sure others are heard
People strong in influencing sell the team’s ideas inside and outside the organization.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Identify your dominant leadership strengths — and lead from them
Know which of the four leadership domains you naturally operate from and amplify it rather than trying to be equally strong in all four.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships - Easy Manner: bring a light touch when appropriate
Use humor, lightness, and warmth to remind both of you that the relationship is bigger than this conflict.
GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations - Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
Related concerns
- Creative Confidence During Conflict
Creative confidence, as defined by Tom and David Kelley of IDEO, is the belief that you can generate good ideas and act on them — and research on self-efficacy shows it is learnable, not fixed. The core method is accumulating small creative wins through guided practice, which rebuilds confidence that was typically damaged by early criticism or comparison.
- Strengths Based Leadership After A Loss
Strengths-based leadership, developed by Tom Rath and Barry Conchie building on Gallup’s decades of manager research, holds that the most effective leaders invest in their own strengths and build teams whose combined strengths cover all four leadership domains — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking. Gallup’s correlational research consistently finds that strength-focused teams report higher engagement and performance, though the causal direction is not fully established.
- Strengths Based Leadership Under Stress
People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
- Active Constructive Responding During Conflict
Shelly Gable’s research found that how partners respond to each other’s good news — not just how they handle bad news — predicts relationship quality. There are four response styles crossed on two axes (active vs passive, constructive vs destructive); only active-constructive responding, which is enthusiastic and engaged, reliably strengthens the bond. This "capitalization" work has a solid research base in relationship science.
- Cliftonstrengths Leadership
People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
- Cliftonstrengths Strategic
People strong in strategic thinking keep the team focused on what could be, not just what is.
Lead from the strategic thinking domain — absorb and analyze information
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