Coaching practices for Stuck in Grief
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve been stuck in one gear for weeks
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- The grief ambushes me at the worst times
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
Practices that may help
- Regulate the oscillation consciously
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Share the continuing bond in community
Talk about the person with others who knew and loved them, keeping the relationship alive in shared memory.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Does Grief Go Away
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Grief Containment Practice
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- Havening For Grief
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
- How To Handle Grief
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- How To Live With Anticipatory Grief
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
- How To Survive Intense Grief
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
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