Coaching practices for Grief Containment Practice
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The grief ambushes me at the worst times
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
Practices that may help
- Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
Continuing bonds theory, developed by Dennis Klass and colleagues, holds that maintaining an ongoing inner relationship with the deceased — through memory, ritual, and internalised connection — is a normal and often adaptive part of grief, not a sign of pathology. Observational research supports this for many types of connection, though some forms (active searching, idealisation) are associated with poorer outcomes. - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Share the continuing bond in community
Talk about the person with others who knew and loved them, keeping the relationship alive in shared memory.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Use symbolic objects as tangible continuing bonds
Keep meaningful objects that represent the person and use them consciously, not compulsively.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Stuck In Grief
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
Regulate the oscillation consciously
- Does Grief Go Away
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Engaging Grief Directly
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Havening For Grief
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
- Healthy Grief Connection
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How Do I Deal With Grief
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
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