Coaching practices for Task vs Self Feedback

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• When someone critiques my work I either avoid asking for it at all, or I fixate on whether it means I’m bad at this
• When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
• Whenever I ask how I’m doing, the answer comes back as a verdict on what I already screwed up, and I spend the whole conversation defending myself instead of actually learning anything I could use next time.
• Looking at my own numbers has started to feel like getting audited
• All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation

Practices that may help

1. Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
   Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
   Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning
2. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
3. Ask for ideas about the future, not assessments of the past
   Replace "how did I do?" with "what ideas do you have for how I could do better?"
   Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
4. Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
   A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
   Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
5. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
   Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
6. Close the loop with regular, specific feedback
   Goals without feedback are motivationally inert — feedback is the other half.
   Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical
7. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
8. Use the performance-feedback loop without Self 1
   Treat every outcome as information, not a verdict — adjust without judging.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
9. Ask yourself feedforward questions as a daily reflection practice
   Replace "what did I do wrong today?" with "what will I do differently tomorrow?"
   Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
10. Use self-regulatory goals and progress monitoring
    Set specific goals, monitor your progress toward them, and adjust based on the gap.
    Social Cognitive Theory

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