Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth After a Loss

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• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• Even when something goes really well I brush it off as luck or good timing, so the win never actually counts toward believing in myself
• When something actually goes well I instantly wave it off as luck or good timing or "anyone could’ve done that," so the win never sticks to me
• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel

Practices that may help

1. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
3. Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance
   Immediately after any significant attempt, extract what worked before the memory fades.
   Mastery Experiences
4. Apply attributional retraining to success as well as failure
   Attribute genuine successes to stable, internal, and global factors — not to luck or circumstance alone.
   Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
5. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
6. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
7. Connect performance to purpose to sustain engagement under adversity
   Ground high-demand performance in a clear "why" that is stable when conditions are worst.
   The Ideal Performance State, Made Practical
8. Practice competence re-attribution
   After each success, write explicitly which of your skills, decisions, or efforts contributed — before the luck explanation settles in.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
9. Explain good events optimistically too
   Read your successes as permanent, pervasive, and personal — the optimist’s mirror of the three Ps.
   Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
10. Convey power
    Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical

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