Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth During a Big Change

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• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet
• I’m about to join a whole new group of people who have no idea who I’ve been

Practices that may help

1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
2. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
6. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
   When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
7. Use belief and community to make change stick
   A supportive group and a belief that change is possible help new habits survive stress.
   The Power of Habit, Made Practical
8. Time nudges to coincide with natural transition points
   People are most open to changing habits at life transitions — capitalize on fresh-start moments.
   Nudge Theory, Made Practical
9. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
10. Understanding trait change — what shifts and what does not
    Big Five traits are relatively stable in rank order but do change in absolute level — especially with deliberate practice and major life transitions.
    The Big Five Personality Model

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