Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth During Conflict

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• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• People tell me I come across as cold or standoffish when I don’t mean to at all
• When someone’s talking I catch myself half-listening while loading up my own story to jump in with the second they pause

Practices that may help

1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
2. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Project warmth
   Signal that you like and accept the person — warmth is goodwill made visible.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
6. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
7. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
8. Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
   As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
9. Maintain positive tone even during disagreement
   The ratio matters most when you are fighting -- keep warmth and acknowledgment present inside conflict.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
10. Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
    Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
    Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships

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