Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth When Overwhelmed

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• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• The very thing I’m best at turns on me under pressure
• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet

Practices that may help

1. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
3. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Map how your strengths distort under stress
   Identify the "overuse" and "underuse" of each signature strength — how they show up when you’re at your worst.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
6. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
7. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
8. Recognise stress-driven backup behaviour
   Under stress, everyone shifts to an exaggerated, less effective version of their dominant style.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
9. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
   Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
   Energy Management, Not Time Management
10. Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
    As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
    The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical

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