Coaching practices for The Gifts of Imperfection for My Teenager

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  • When I mess up I tear into myself in a way I’d never speak to anyone I love
  • I won’t put anything out until it’s flawless, so most of it never goes out at all
  • I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
  • I scroll and instantly feel behind everyone
  • I keep telling my kid they’re so smart, so gifted

Practices that may help

  1. The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
    Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection argues that a sense of worthiness comes not from being perfect but from embracing imperfection — through authenticity, self-compassion, and what she calls wholehearted living. The book’s guideposts come from grounded-theory analysis of qualitative interviews, so they are well-developed patterns from lived experience rather than experimentally proven steps.
  2. Practice self-compassion
    Respond to your own imperfection with the kindness you’d offer a friend, not harsh judgment.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  3. Let go of perfectionism
    See perfectionism as a shield against judgment, not a path to excellence — and set it down.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  4. Cultivate authenticity
    Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  5. Let go of comparison
    Stop measuring your worth against others — comparison fits in by being the same and standing out at once.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  6. Praise process, not innate ability
    Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
    Growth Mindset: The Honest Version
  7. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  8. Claim worthiness now
    Believe you are worthy of love and belonging as you are — not after you fix yourself.
    The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
  9. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  10. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
    Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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