Coaching practices for The Good Life Lessons From the Harvard Study as a Parent
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- I keep telling myself I’ll make real time for the people I love once I hit the next work milestone, and that milestone never stops moving
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- I catch myself just waiting for my turn to talk instead of really hearing the person in front of me
- I look up and realize whole friendships have quietly gone silent
- I’ve defined being a good parent (or partner, or manager) by whether the other person turns out happy and successful
Practices that may help
- The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
The Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest longitudinal study of adult life, directed today by Robert Waldinger — found that the strongest predictor of long-term health and happiness is the quality of our relationships, not wealth or fame. It is real, decades-long research, but it is observational: it shows relationships and wellbeing move together, which is strong but not proof of pure cause. - Investing in people over status
Direct discretionary time and energy toward relationships, not just career and acquisition.
The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Genuine curiosity about others
Ask real questions and listen, instead of waiting to talk.
The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study - Practicing "social fitness"
Tend your relationships like physical fitness — regularly, not only when something breaks.
The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- Encouraging A Child To Follow Their Natural Gifts
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Essentialism As A Parent
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
- Harvard Study Of Adult Development
The Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest longitudinal study of adult life, directed today by Robert Waldinger — found that the strongest predictor of long-term health and happiness is the quality of our relationships, not wealth or fame. It is real, decades-long research, but it is observational: it shows relationships and wellbeing move together, which is strong but not proof of pure cause.
- The Good Life Lessons From The Harvard Study For My Teenager
The Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest longitudinal study of adult life, directed today by Robert Waldinger — found that the strongest predictor of long-term health and happiness is the quality of our relationships, not wealth or fame. It is real, decades-long research, but it is observational: it shows relationships and wellbeing move together, which is strong but not proof of pure cause.
- How Can I Help My Child Learn To Learn Better
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- How Can I Teach My Child Not To Be Greedy
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
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