Coaching practices for The Investment Model of Commitment Why People Stay and Why They Leave for My Teenager

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  • We’ve built so much together
  • I keep catching myself daydreaming about some other life
  • We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
  • We default to whatever each of us wants in the moment, and I rarely choose their preference over mine on purpose
  • When I ask myself if I’m happy in this relationship, all I can summon are the irritations and the fights

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  1. The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
    Caryl Rusbult’s Investment Model proposes that commitment is driven by three factors: satisfaction (how good the relationship feels), quality of alternatives (how appealing life outside the relationship seems), and investment size (what you’ve put into it that would be lost on leaving). All three are modifiable — and understanding which is weakest gives a precise target for strengthening commitment. The model has extensive empirical support across diverse relationship types and cultures.
  2. Making your investments visible to both partners
    Name and acknowledge the shared investments in the relationship — children, history, shared projects — to both parties.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  3. Understanding and managing the lure of alternatives
    Recognize when comparison to alternatives is inflating their apparent quality — and how to recalibrate.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  4. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
    Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  5. Willingness to sacrifice: building relationship-oriented decision-making
    Practice making at least one weekly decision that prioritizes the relationship over personal short-term convenience.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  6. Satisfaction audit: tracking what is actually good
    Regularly inventory what genuinely works in the relationship — not as gratitude practice, but as an honest baseline.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  7. Schedule commitment renewal to prevent drift
    Recommit explicitly every few weeks — the motivation that drove the original contract fades faster than the contract itself.
    Commitment Contracts, Made Practical
  8. Apply reverse sunk-cost thinking to existing commitments
    Ask "Would I commit to this today, knowing what I know now?" for every ongoing obligation.
    Essentialism: The Art of Eliminating the Non-Essential
  9. Use precommitment devices to lock in future behavior from a patient vantage point
    Remove the option to defect when temptation peaks by committing now, before present bias activates.
    Hyperbolic Discounting — Why Future You Always Gets the Short End
  10. Exit obligations gracefully and early
    When you realize a commitment was a mistake, exit cleanly before deeper entrenchment — not later.
    Essentialism: The Art of Eliminating the Non-Essential

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