Coaching practices for The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser at Work

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  • I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
  • There are certain moments
  • My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
  • I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
  • I understand exactly why I feel this way and I’ve looked at it honestly, but understanding it hasn’t made it hurt any less

Practices that may help

  1. The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
    Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
  2. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  3. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
    Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  4. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  5. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  6. RAIN — Nurture (offer what is needed)
    Give the hurting part the care it actually needs — a phrase, a hand on the heart, a kind tone.
    Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
  7. How growth is supported (not forced)
    Growth, when it comes, is supported by safety, time, and being accompanied — never by pressure.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  8. Tend to yourself before tending to others
    Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
    Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
  9. Trust their capacity to find their own way
    Hold the belief that they can move through this — don’t treat them as fragile or as a problem to manage.
    Holding Space
  10. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
    Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)

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