Coaching practices for The One Minute Manager Three Practices That Still Work During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
- We solve the immediate thing but the same ugly dynamic underneath stays exactly the same, so the next disagreement plays out identically
- My whole attention as a manager is tuned to what’s broken
- The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
- I came in hard because the situation called for it, but partway through the urgent part got settled and the other person clearly just needed to feel heard
Practices that may help
- The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
Blanchard and Johnson’s One Minute Manager distills management to three practices: one-minute goals (clear, written, short), one-minute praisings (specific, immediate, genuine), and one-minute reprimands (immediate, behavior-specific, followed by reaffirmation). The framework is a 1982 practitioner classic, not a clinical protocol, but the mechanisms — specificity in feedback, timeliness, and the separation of behavior from character — are supported by decades of subsequent research in reinforcement and feedback theory. - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Transform the relationship, not just the issue
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Catch people doing things right
Most management attention goes to problems — systematically noticing good work is both rarer and more powerful.
The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Choose your style deliberately
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Use the horsemen as an early-warning system, not only a post-mortem
Notice which horseman is present in the first 60 seconds of a conflict and intervene before it escalates.
The Four Horsemen: Gottman's Warning Signs of Relationship Breakdown - Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
The Thomas-Kilmann model maps conflict behavior on two axes — how much you assert your own needs and how much you cooperate with the other’s — yielding five styles: competing, accommodating, avoiding, compromising, and collaborating. None is "best": each fits certain situations, and skill lies in choosing deliberately rather than defaulting to the one style you always reach for. The model is a widely used framework and instrument, not an outcome-tested intervention.
Related concerns
- Choice Architecture During Conflict
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
- The 4 Disciplines Of Execution 4dx During Conflict
The 4 Disciplines of Execution (McChesney, Covey & Huling) is an organizational strategy framework built around four practices: focus on a wildly important goal, act on lead measures, keep a compelling scoreboard, and create a cadence of accountability. Evidence is primarily organizational case studies and observational data; controlled trials on the framework as a whole are limited, but the individual components (implementation intentions, feedback loops, social accountability) have broader research support.
- The Action Method During Conflict
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
Identify your default conflict mode
- The Ivy Lee Method During Conflict
The Ivy Lee Method is a simple daily planning routine: each evening, list your six most important tasks for tomorrow in priority order, then work through them sequentially without switching. It is a practitioner system with a century-old origin story and no formal controlled trials, but it operationalizes well-supported principles — prioritization, sequencing, and single-task focus — in a low-overhead format.
- Adaptive Conflict Management
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
Choose your style deliberately
- Choosing A Conflict Style
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
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