Coaching practices for The Relaxation Body Mind After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- I laughed at something today and immediately felt like a traitor
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
Practices that may help
- Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Body Scan and Session Closure
Sweep attention through the body after processing to catch residual tension before closing the session.
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing - Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Receive meaning through beauty, love, and nature
Meaning flows not only from what you do but from what you allow yourself to fully receive.
Meaning-Centered Therapy, Made Practical - The last day of summer
Treat any positive experience as if it is happening for the last time — not morbidly, but to be fully present.
Negative Visualization, the Stoic Practice
Related concerns
- Taking Break From Grief
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- Accepting Loss Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Detached Mindfulness After A Loss
Detached mindfulness, developed by Adrian Wells in Metacognitive Therapy, is a mental stance of observing thoughts without engaging, analysing, or believing them — like watching clouds drift past without chasing any of them. It directly targets the extended rumination and worry that drive anxiety and depression, with growing clinical trial evidence supporting MCT overall.
- How To Move On From Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- Walking Meditation After A Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- Adjusting To Loss
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
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