Coaching practices for The Third Alternative in a New Job

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• If I’m honest, I would never sign up for this job (or this routine, this arrangement) if it were put in front of me fresh today
• I keep my options open in case something better comes along
• I’d settled on A over B, and then a third option showed up and somehow flipped me back to B
• We shook hands on the idea feeling great, then a week later it fell apart because it turned out each of us had pictured something completely different
• I’ve quietly decided there’s only one acceptable version of my life and I’m white-knuckling toward it

Practices that may help

1. The Third Alternative, Made Practical
   The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
2. Ask: “Would I choose this today if I were starting fresh?”
   Evaluate your current situation as if you were encountering it for the first time, without sunk costs.
   Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default
3. Settling on purpose
   Make a real, binding choice instead of keeping every option open forever.
   Four Thousand Weeks, Made Practical
4. Check whether a third option is changing your view of the original two
   If a new option makes you change your preference between existing options, ask whether the new option should have that power.
   The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice
5. Make the third alternative tangible with a prototype or model
   Turn an abstract third-alternative idea into something both parties can react to together.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
6. Draft three genuinely different five-year plans
   Sketch three distinct five-year lives — not variations on the same theme, but genuinely different directions.
   Odyssey Plans: Designing Three Alternative Futures
7. Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
   Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
8. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
   When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
9. Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
   Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
10. Use genius mapping in onboarding
    Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
    The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)

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