Coaching practices for The Transtheoretical Model of Change After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I slipped after weeks of doing well and the shame hit so hard I just threw the whole thing out and went back to square one
- I’ve held this change for a while and feel good about it overall, but there are specific moments
- I keep selling this change as a clear win and can’t understand why people are dragging their feet
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- I keep reaching for tracking apps and tidy action plans before I’ve done any of the inner work, and they never stick
Practices that may help
- Treat relapse as a predictable part of the process, not a failure
Most people cycle through the stages several times before achieving lasting change — plan for it.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
The Transtheoretical Model (TTM), developed by Prochaska and DiClemente, proposes that behavior change moves through five stages — precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance — and that strategies effective in one stage often backfire in another. The staging framework is well-validated; the prescriptive matching of "stage-tailored" interventions shows promising but mixed results in trials. - Track your temptation-to-confidence ratio
Confidence in your ability to resist temptation must outpace the pull of the old behavior.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later
Use consciousness-raising and emotional arousal early; counter-conditioning and stimulus control after you commit.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Domain 2 — New possibilities
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Identify and address secondary stressors
Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Accountability Partner Stages Of Change
An accountability partner is someone you regularly report progress to, which raises follow-through by adding a social cost to quitting and a felt obligation to show up. The effect is real and best supported when the arrangement is specific, scheduled, and carries genuine stakes — a vague "let’s keep each other accountable" usually does little.
- Adjusting To Loss
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
- Emotional Agility After A Loss
Emotional agility, developed by psychologist Susan David, is the ability to engage with your emotions — including the difficult ones — with curiosity and without being controlled by them. Unlike toxic positivity, it does not suppress or reframe negative feelings away; it asks you to see them clearly and choose your response from values rather than from reflex. The framework draws heavily on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), which has a well-established research base.
- Habit Loss Life Change
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
- Prochaska Stages Of Change
The Transtheoretical Model (TTM), developed by Prochaska and DiClemente, proposes that behavior change moves through five stages — precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance — and that strategies effective in one stage often backfire in another. The staging framework is well-validated; the prescriptive matching of "stage-tailored" interventions shows promising but mixed results in trials.
- Stages Of Change
The Transtheoretical Model (TTM), developed by Prochaska and DiClemente, proposes that behavior change moves through five stages — precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance — and that strategies effective in one stage often backfire in another. The staging framework is well-validated; the prescriptive matching of "stage-tailored" interventions shows promising but mixed results in trials.
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