Coaching practices for The Trust Triangle on a Budget

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• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• The honest answer here is that they don’t really need me
• With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
• I’m competent and I deliver, but people still hold me at arm’s length
• I do genuinely have their back, but I assume they just know it, so I never actually show it

Practices that may help

1. The Trust Triangle
   Charles Feltman’s Trust Triangle (from The Thin Book of Trust) identifies four distinct assessments that together constitute trust: sincerity (I mean what I say), reliability (I do what I say), competence (I have the ability to do what I say), and care (I have your interests at heart). Trust breaks down when any one of these assessments fails — and repairing trust requires identifying which assessment was damaged.
2. The Trust Equation, Made Practical
   The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
3. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
4. Give away the answer even when it costs you
   When the right answer reduces your value or authority, give it anyway — that act is the trust signal.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
5. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
6. Audit and reduce your self-orientation
   Self-orientation is the denominator: a small increase in it wipes out gains in all three numerator variables.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
7. Demonstrate care through visible acts in the other person’s interest
   Show that your interests and theirs are genuinely aligned — not only when it’s convenient.
   The Trust Triangle
8. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
9. Build reliability by making smaller, keepable promises
   Under-promise consistently, then exceed rather than over-promise and fall short.
   The Trust Triangle
10. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
    Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
    The Trust Triangle

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