Coaching practices for The Trust Equation with Friends

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• I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front
• With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• I have plenty of people around me but no one I let all the way in, so when things get hard there’s no one who really knows me to lean on
• I’ve never even properly introduced myself to the neighbor across the hall or the coworker at the next desk

Practices that may help

1. The Trust Equation, Made Practical
   The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
2. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
3. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
4. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
5. The Trust Triangle
   Charles Feltman’s Trust Triangle (from The Thin Book of Trust) identifies four distinct assessments that together constitute trust: sincerity (I mean what I say), reliability (I do what I say), competence (I have the ability to do what I say), and care (I have your interests at heart). Trust breaks down when any one of these assessments fails — and repairing trust requires identifying which assessment was damaged.
6. Use reciprocal disclosure to strengthen stress-buffering relationships
   Mutually sharing vulnerability builds the relationship depth that makes it a reliable stress buffer.
   Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
7. Invest in the people physically nearest you
   Your immediate neighbors, officemates, and classmates are your highest-ROI friendship investments — propinquity is already working.
   The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
8. Demonstrate care through visible acts in the other person’s interest
   Show that your interests and theirs are genuinely aligned — not only when it’s convenient.
   The Trust Triangle
9. Audit and reduce your self-orientation
   Self-orientation is the denominator: a small increase in it wipes out gains in all three numerator variables.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
10. Give away the answer even when it costs you
    When the right answer reduces your value or authority, give it anyway — that act is the trust signal.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical

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