Coaching practices for The Untethered Soul in Practice After a Loss

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  • Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
  • I hold on to everything all day long
  • Something I built my life around has ended
  • People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
  • The worst of the darkness has lifted, but I haven’t simply gone back to how I was before

Practices that may help

  1. The Untethered Soul, In Practice
    Michael Singer’s teaching is that you are not your thoughts and emotions but the awareness that observes them — "the seat of awareness." The practical moves are noticing the inner voice, choosing to relax and release stuck emotional energy rather than suppress or indulge it, and keeping the "inner gate" open through whatever arises. These are experiential teachings; some overlap with studied mechanisms like decentering and acceptance, but Singer’s framing is not a clinically tested protocol.
  2. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
    When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
    Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
  3. Letting go as a moment-to-moment practice
    Make releasing — rather than gripping — your default response to whatever arises during the day.
    The Untethered Soul, In Practice
  4. Reframing loss as transformation
    When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
    Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
  5. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
    Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
  6. What emerges after the night: greater freedom and union
    Recognize that the night, when borne faithfully, leaves greater simplicity and freedom than was present before.
    The Dark Night of the Soul: John of the Cross
  7. Resting in the seat of awareness
    Settle back into the center of consciousness that is simply aware, behind all experience.
    The Untethered Soul, In Practice
  8. Working with attachments in the night of the senses
    Use the night of the senses to examine what you have been clinging to for identity and security.
    The Dark Night of the Soul: John of the Cross
  9. Use symbolic objects as tangible continuing bonds
    Keep meaningful objects that represent the person and use them consciously, not compulsively.
    Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
  10. Tend to unburdened parts over time
    Unburdening is a beginning, not a conclusion — check in with the part in subsequent sessions.
    IFS Unburdening, Made Practical

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