Coaching practices for Unconditional Self Acceptance with Friends
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- I hold myself to a standard of basically never making mistakes, so every ordinary slip-up feels like a defect in me
- I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
- If a friend told me they’d failed like this I’d be warm and understanding in a heartbeat, but I turn on myself with a cruelty I’d never aim at anyone I love
- I keep telling myself I’ll finally feel enough once I lose the weight, hit the goal, get the approval
- There are parts of me
Practices that may help
- Unconditional Self-Acceptance
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support. - Practice deliberate acceptance of human fallibility
Regularly remind yourself that being imperfect is not a character flaw — it is the nature of being human.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Apply self-kindness as actively as you would to a friend
Treat yourself with the same warmth and understanding you would offer a close friend in the same situation.
Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem - Claim worthiness now
Believe you are worthy of love and belonging as you are — not after you fix yourself.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - The practice of self-acceptance
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Extend unconditional acceptance to others
Apply the same anti-rating logic to other people — separating what they did from what they are.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Separate the act from the self
Rate your behaviors and outcomes — never your whole self — so one failure cannot indict your entire worth.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Dispute the musts and shoulds driving self-condemnation
Catch the absolute demand ("I must succeed") and convert it into a preference ("I strongly prefer to succeed").
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
Related concerns
- Unconditional Self Acceptance At Work
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Unconditional Self Acceptance For My Teenager
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Albert Ellis Self Acceptance
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Unconditional Self Acceptance After A Setback
Regularly remind yourself that being imperfect is not a character flaw — it is the nature of being human.
Practice deliberate acceptance of human fallibility
- Unconditional Self Acceptance During A Big Change
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Unconditional Self Acceptance With My Team
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
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