Coaching practices for Understand Your Boss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
- I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I honestly can’t tell where I stand with my boss
Practices that may help
- Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus. - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
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Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
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