Coaching practices for Value Differences Teamwork
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My team keeps fighting over what to do first and it always gets personal, but underneath it I think we just quietly mean different things by "important"
- We’ve got several things on the table and we keep splitting each one right down the middle, leaving us both half-satisfied on everything
- I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
- Everyone on my team is quietly playing for their own scoreboard
- We’re stuck — they want one thing, I want another, and the best we ever do is split the difference and both walk away a little unhappy, when I have a nagging sense there’s a better answer neither of us has found.
Practices that may help
- Define "important" explicitly as a team
Before sorting tasks, align on what "important" means — which goals, for whom, over what time horizon.
The Eisenhower Matrix for Teams - Trade across differing priorities
Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Align around collective results, not individual status
Teams fail when members prioritize their own visibility or department’s success over the shared goal.
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical - Habit 6: Synergize
Combine differences so the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical - Using values questions to deepen a conversation
Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
Values Card Sort - Cover and move (teamwork over silos)
Every team and department exists to support the others toward the same mission, not to win locally.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
The Shared Meaning System - Make core values operational, not decorative
Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus - Articulate a compelling vision of why the work matters
Connect the team’s daily work to a meaningful purpose they can believe in.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Team Incentives Alignment
Teams fail when members prioritize their own visibility or department’s success over the shared goal.
Align around collective results, not individual status
- Goal Misalignment
Arie Kruglanski’s goal systems theory proposes that goals and the means to achieve them form an associative network in the mind, with each element linked to others. When a single means can serve multiple goals (multifinality), motivation is amplified; when goals compete for the same means or time (goal conflict), pursuing one can suppress or extinguish motivation for another. The theory is well-developed conceptually with a body of supporting experimental research.
- When The Five Dysfunctions Collective Results Focus
Teams fail when members prioritize their own visibility or department’s success over the shared goal.
- When Values Card Sort Values In Relationships
Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
- Belonging In Team
Make every team member feel valued and accepted as a human being before expecting performance.
Establish inclusion safety — belonging without conditions
- Competing Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Rank your top values
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