Coaching practices for Values Alignment Check

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I assumed we wanted the same things, but lately our differences keep surfacing and I can’t tell which ones are real gaps in what we value and which are just us never having checked whether we’re actually aligned.
• I assume my spending more or less reflects what I care about, but I’ve never actually tested it
• I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down

Practices that may help

1. Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
   Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
   The Shared Meaning System
2. Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
   Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
3. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
4. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
5. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
6. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
7. Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
   Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
   Values Card Sort
8. Clarify the concepts you are using
   Ask for precise definitions before arguments built on contested or ambiguous terms go far.
   Socratic Questioning
9. Review goal-self fit at regular intervals
   As you grow, some formerly self-concordant goals become misaligned — review them deliberately.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
10. Apply the double-standard check: would I accept this reasoning if it pointed the other way?
    Test whether you are holding your team’s arguments to a lower bar than the other side’s.
    The Scout Mindset

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