Coaching practices for Values Alignment Work

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I assumed we wanted the same things, but lately our differences keep surfacing and I can’t tell which ones are real gaps in what we value and which are just us never having checked whether we’re actually aligned.
• My partner and I keep clashing over things we both supposedly want, and I’ve been assuming we’re aligned underneath
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
• There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down

Practices that may help

1. Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
   Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
   The Shared Meaning System
2. Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
   Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
   Values Card Sort
3. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
4. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
5. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
6. Clarify the concepts you are using
   Ask for precise definitions before arguments built on contested or ambiguous terms go far.
   Socratic Questioning
7. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
8. Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
   Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
9. Review the bullseye weekly to track real movement
   Re-mark each domain every week and compare — small outward or inward shifts are your feedback loop.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
10. Make core values operational, not decorative
    Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
    The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus

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