Coaching practices for Values Based Goals

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• There’s a goal I keep flogging myself to pursue and it just won’t stick
• The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
• I’ve got this whole list of goals and I honestly can’t tell anymore which ones are mine versus which I took on to look right or quiet the guilt
• I measure myself purely by the scoreboard

Practices that may help

1. Using your ranked values as a coaching north star
   Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
   Values Card Sort
2. Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
   Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
3. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
4. Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
   Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
5. Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
   Values-based spending is the practice of deliberately allocating money toward what you have identified as genuinely important to you — and cutting spending that does not reflect those priorities. It is not minimalism or frugality; it is a decision framework that uses your stated values as the filter for every financial choice. The evidence base is primarily from financial psychology and hedonic wellbeing research, not clinical trials.
6. Audit why you are pursuing each goal
   Check whether each goal is driven by interest and values or by guilt and external pressure.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
7. Define success by growth and contribution, not scorekeeping
   Shifting the success metric from achievement tallies to personal growth and impact changes what you optimise for — usually for the better.
   Goal-Free Living: When Process Beats Destination
8. Separate values from goals
   Distinguish directions you live (values) from destinations you reach (goals).
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
9. Internalize goals you did not choose
   Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
10. Link every action to a named value
    Before you begin, name the value the action expresses — not just the goal it serves.
    Committed Action, Made Practical

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