Coaching practices for Values Clarification During a Big Change

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • We all kept saying the same word
  • I keep selling this change as a clear win and can’t understand why people are dragging their feet
  • We just shook on something important and the conversation felt totally clear to both of us
  • We keep rolling out new processes and reorgs to fix this thing and nothing moves the needle
  • A lot has changed for me lately

Practices that may help

  1. Clarify the concepts you are using
    Ask for precise definitions before arguments built on contested or ambiguous terms go far.
    Socratic Questioning
  2. Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
    Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  3. Document key agreements in writing across the style gap
    For important decisions, put the explicit agreement in writing even when the verbal exchange seemed clear.
    High-Context and Low-Context Communication
  4. Values Clarification, Made Practical
    Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
  5. Diagnose the challenge before choosing the response
    Ask whether the problem requires new expertise (technical) or new values and behavior (adaptive).
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  6. The seasonal values revisit
    Re-sort your cards every three to six months — values shift, and the map should too.
    Values Card Sort
  7. Develop second-tier, systems-level thinking
    Practice holding multiple value systems as simultaneously valid rather than competing for dominance.
    Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical
  8. Update your view out loud when the evidence warrants it
    Say explicitly when you’ve shifted — this is what good reasoning looks like, not weakness.
    Productive Disagreement, Made Practical
  9. Update your love map after major life changes
    When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
    Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
  10. Using values questions to deepen a conversation
    Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
    Values Card Sort

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