Coaching practices for Values vs Behavior Audit

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down
• I keep telling myself I’m basically living in line with what I care about, but if I’m brutally honest about my actual behavior the last couple of weeks, I suspect I’m way further from the center than I let myself admit
• I say family and health are what matter most to me, but if you looked at where my hours and attention actually went this month you’d never guess it
• I have no real read on whether I’m actually doing this or just feel like I am

Practices that may help

1. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
2. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
3. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
4. Know thyself — map your actual values against your actions
   Compare what you say you value with what your behavior reveals you actually value.
   The Examined Life
5. Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust
   Measure the behavior directly and use the data to update your intervention, not just your motivation.
   The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
6. Review the bullseye weekly to track real movement
   Re-mark each domain every week and compare — small outward or inward shifts are your feedback loop.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
7. Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
   A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
   Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
8. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
9. Periodically compare self-ratings with objective data
   People systematically miscalibrate self-monitoring — periodic objective checks correct the drift.
   Self-Monitoring, Made Practical
10. Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
    Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.

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