Coaching practices for Via Character Strengths as a Caregiver

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve got a list of my strengths but it reads like a flat personality quiz
  • My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
  • The very thing I’m best at turns on me under pressure
  • I catch myself scanning everyone around me for what’s wrong with them, and I want to flip that lens
  • With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away

Practices that may help

  1. Connect individual strengths to the broader virtues they serve
    Understand which of the six VIA virtues your signature strengths express, and what that reveals about your character.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  2. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  3. VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
    Peterson and Seligman’s VIA Classification identifies 24 character strengths organized under six virtues, and multiple randomized trials find that using your top "signature strengths" in new ways reliably increases well-being and decreases depressive symptoms. The effect is most robust when strengths are deployed in engaged, relational ways — not just recognized but actively applied.
  4. Map how your strengths distort under stress
    Identify the "overuse" and "underuse" of each signature strength — how they show up when you’re at your worst.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  5. Spot and name character strengths in others
    Notice and explicitly name the character strengths you observe in people around you.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  6. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
    Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  7. Use a signature strength in a new way each day for one week
    Apply one of your top character strengths to a context or relationship where you don’t normally use it.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  8. The concentric-circle extension of ren
    Deliberately extend the quality of care you have for those closest to you toward more distant others.
    Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach
  9. Use your signature strengths in a new way
    Identify your top character strengths and deploy one of them differently each day.
    Positive Psychology, Made Practical
  10. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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