Coaching practices for What is the Best Way of Dealing with a Work Colleague Who Triggers My Anxiety

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• The voice in my head when I’m anxious is brutal
• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• When I make myself face the scary scenario I end up still wound up and rattled afterward, and then I dread doing it again
• Before I can even start facing my fears head-on, I have to stop them ambushing me at every hour
• I walk into hard situations white-knuckling to make sure nothing bad happens, so the second I feel any anxiety I read it as proof of danger and grab for a crutch

Practices that may help

1. Balanced, compassionate self-talk
   Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
   The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical
2. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Combine worry exposure with relaxation skill
   After the exposure period, apply a relaxation practice to close each session with a deactivation phase.
   Worry Exposure, Made Practical
4. Worry stimulus control: confine worry to a designated time
   Schedule a 20-minute daily "worry period" and postpone all worry outside it.
   Worry Exposure, Made Practical
5. Reframe from "preventing catastrophe" to "coping with discomfort"
   Shift the goal of entering feared situations from preventing disaster to practicing tolerance.
   Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
6. Run toward the feeling
   Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
7. The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical
   A practical anxiety toolkit pulls together a handful of evidence-informed skills — grounding, breathing, interoceptive awareness, behavioral experiments, and balanced self-talk — so you have the right tool for the moment instead of one move for every situation. Several of these rest on solid clinical and experimental support. They are self-help skills for everyday stress and anxiety; for severe or persistent anxiety, use them alongside professional care.
8. Thank your mind for the thought
   Respond to an anxious thought with "Thanks, mind" — acknowledging it without taking it as instruction.
   Defusion from Anxious Thoughts
9. Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
   Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
   The Downward Arrow: Uncovering the Core Beliefs Behind Distress
10. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical

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