Coaching practices for What Keeps Relationships Strong

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• We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
• We’re comfortable and we still do plenty together, but it’s the same loop every week
• We pass each other like roommates these days, connection only happening if it randomly happens, and there’s no reliable little moment that’s just ours
• We still love each other but every week is the same loop
• When things get stressful and busy, the warmth in my relationship is the first casualty because I have no energy left to be deliberate about it

Practices that may help

1. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
   Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
   The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
2. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
   Relationship maintenance behaviors are the everyday actions partners use to sustain relationship satisfaction, commitment, and closeness over time. Laura Stafford’s research identified five evidence-linked categories — positivity, openness, assurances, social networks, and sharing tasks — with positivity and assurances showing the strongest and most consistent links to satisfaction.
3. Regularly share novel and enjoyable activities
   Do new things together — not only comfortable or habitual ones.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
4. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
5. Do novel, moderately challenging activities together
   New and slightly difficult shared experiences restore the self-expansion that keeps closeness alive.
   Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us
6. Build small positive rituals that generate surplus passively
   Recurring small rituals deposit into the positive account without requiring sustained conscious effort.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
7. Give regular assurances of commitment
   Explicitly remind your partner of your love, commitment, and investment in the relationship.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. Actively maintain memory of your relationship’s positive history
   PSO is partly built on a rich, accessible memory of good times — keep it alive.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
9. Create and protect the couple bubble
   Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
10. Ask genuine questions about your partner’s inner world
    Keep updating your mental model of who your partner actually is right now.
    The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships

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