Coaching practices for What Went Well What Did Not

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For What Went Well What Did Not, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• It didn’t work out and I’m beating myself up as if a bad result automatically means I did badly
• It went well so I assumed I did everything right and moved on
• When something doesn’t land the way I hoped, I write the whole thing off as a failure and myself along with it
• I lost, so I’ve written the whole thing off as a failure
• At the end of the day my failures are vivid and my wins are invisible

Practices that may help

1. Review actions through the reserve clause lens
   After a disappointing outcome, ask: did I act well? If yes, the discipline is complete — the outcome is not the measure.
   The Stoic Reserve Clause
2. Debrief against process goals, not just the outcome
   After performance, evaluate whether you executed your process goals before evaluating the result.
   Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
3. Reframe feedback from outcome to process
   After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
   The Confidence–Competence Loop
4. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
   Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
5. Balance the review with a genuine positive inventory
   List three specific things you did well today — not three things that went well, but three things you did.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
6. Three good things (what went well)
   Each night, write down three things that went well and why they went well.
   Positive Psychology, Made Practical
7. Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
   Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
8. Go deep on "what went well" — extract the recipe, not just the win
   A win recorded but not analyzed produces no transferable knowledge — identify what specifically caused it.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
9. Three good things
   Each evening, write three things that went well and why they happened.
   Gratitude Journaling, Done Well
10. Debrief after performance without letting relief collapse the strategy
    After a successful performance, acknowledge the outcome honestly without abandoning the preparation habit that produced it.
    Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical

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