Coaching practices for When Something Goes Badly I'll Pick it Apart for Hours but When Something Actually Goes Great I Just Enjoy it and Move on Without a Second Thought So I've Got a Long List of What to Avoid and Almost No Idea How to Deliberately Do the Good Thing Again
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- When something goes badly I’ll pick it apart for hours, but when something actually goes great I just enjoy it and move on without a second thought
- Things that should be enjoyable keep landing flat, and I can’t see why
- My days mostly run together as fine-to-bad, and even when something genuinely good happens it slides off me by bedtime
- I slipped up once and now I’m stuck replaying how badly I blew it, spiraling into "I just have to stop messing up"
- Good things happen but I’m already onto the next thing before they even register
Practices that may help
- Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Identify and reduce your personal savoring killers
Notice the mental habits that most reliably interrupt your positive experiences and address them specifically.
Savoring the Moment, Made Practical - Three good things
Each evening, write three things that went well and why they happened.
Gratitude Journaling, Done Well - Maintain approach framing after a setback
When you miss, ask "what does success look like from here?" rather than "how bad was the failure?"
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Savoring positive experiences
Slow down and linger in a pleasant experience — letting it register fully rather than rushing through or narrating it away.
Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical - Three good things
Each night, write three things that went well and why — retraining attention toward the positive.
Optimism Training: Building Realistic, Flexible Optimism - Three good things (what went well)
Each night, write down three things that went well and why they went well.
Positive Psychology, Made Practical - Reframe feedback from outcome to process
After any outcome — good or bad — ask "what did I do well?" before "how did it go?"
The Confidence–Competence Loop - Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice - Catching the kill-joy thoughts
Notice and set aside the thoughts that quietly sabotage your enjoyment.
Savoring: Getting More From the Good
Related concerns
- When Three Good Things Three Good Things At Work
Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
- What Went Well What Did Not
After a disappointing outcome, ask: did I act well? If yes, the discipline is complete — the outcome is not the measure.
Review actions through the reserve clause lens
- When Positive Psychology Three Good Things
Each night, write down three things that went well and why they went well.
Three good things (what went well)
- Building Positive Emotions Before Bed
Positive emotions can be cultivated deliberately through practices that vary what triggers them: gratitude, savoring, meaningful engagement, kindness, and awe are the most studied routes. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions expand thinking and build psychological resources over time — supported by observational research, though some specific claims (like the 3:1 ratio) have not replicated. The individual practices have varying but mostly real evidence bases.
- How To Enjoy Life More
Deliberately notice and extend the experience of present goods — before hedonic adaptation erases them.
Savor existing goods before pursuing more
- How To Enjoy Things More
Heighten one sense and shut out interruptions to intensify a good experience.
Sharpening perception and blocking distraction
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