Coaching practices for When Something Goes Wrong My First Move is to Find Whose Fault it Was and Being Right About That Leaves Me Stuck Pointing at the Cause but Waiting on Someone Else to Fix it

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• When something goes wrong my first move is to find whose fault it was, and being right about that leaves me stuck
• Whenever something goes wrong I land on “someone screwed up”
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
• My first reaction when something goes wrong is "why did you DO that?"

Practices that may help

1. Take extreme ownership of outcomes — even ones that aren’t your fault
   Claiming ownership of everything in your domain — even external failures — is the fastest path to fixing them.
   Discipline Equals Freedom: Jocko Willink's Framework
2. Distinguish human error from system conditions
   When a person is the proximate cause, ask why the system allowed the error to occur.
   The Five Whys
3. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
4. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
5. Focus on solutions, not blame
   Ask "What can we do to fix this?" rather than "Why did you do that?" — one opens, the other closes.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
6. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
   Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
7. Reframe outcomes toward effort and strategy
   After a result, attribute it to actions you took (or can change) rather than to fixed luck or fate.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
8. Withhold advice until they feel heard
   Resist the urge to fix; understanding comes before any solution.
   Active Listening, Made Practical
9. Own your share of the rupture
   Name your specific contribution to the break — without making it a competition over who was worse.
   Rupture and Repair
10. Design the fix to prevent recurrence, not just to recover from this instance
    Ensure the root-cause fix eliminates the cause permanently, not just this occurrence.
    The Five Whys

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