Coaching practices for When Something Goes Wrong My First Move is to Find Who Dropped the Ball and When it Goes Well I Quietly Feel it Was Mostly Me and I Want to Flip That Instinct Owning the Failures and Pushing the Credit Outward

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• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
• Something good happens and my first move is to hand the credit away
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find whose fault it was, and being right about that leaves me stuck
• I dropped the ball and now I can feel myself about to bury the admission in a whole paragraph of reasons why it wasn’t really my fault

Practices that may help

1. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
2. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
3. Reattribute good events to yourself
   When something goes well, practice crediting your own stable qualities, not just luck.
   Optimism Training: Building Realistic, Flexible Optimism
4. Take extreme ownership of outcomes — even ones that aren’t your fault
   Claiming ownership of everything in your domain — even external failures — is the fastest path to fixing them.
   Discipline Equals Freedom: Jocko Willink's Framework
5. Own mistakes promptly and without over-explanation
   A fast, clean acknowledgment of error lands better than a slow, elaborate defense.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
6. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
   Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
7. Practice owning your contribution in group settings
   In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
8. Practice competence re-attribution
   After each success, write explicitly which of your skills, decisions, or efforts contributed — before the luck explanation settles in.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
9. Reframe outcomes toward effort and strategy
   After a result, attribute it to actions you took (or can change) rather than to fixed luck or fate.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
10. Apply the razor to yourself
    Extend to your own past actions the same charitable interpretation you give others.
    Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain

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