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- We’re deadlocked because they’re certain the numbers will land one way and I’m just as certain they won’t
- The deal is stuck because they swear the numbers will hit and I’m sure they won’t, and neither of us will budge on our forecast
- I state every opinion like it’s flat-out fact, and then the other person hears a hard line and braces to defend theirs
- I talk about the future in flat will-or-won’t terms
- We keep going in circles arguing about who’s right, both certain
Practices that may help
- Write contingent contracts when forecasts disagree
If you and the other side have different predictions, let the outcome decide who was right.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Bridge disagreements with contingent terms
When you disagree about the future, bet on it — tie terms to what actually happens.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - State your confidence level alongside your position
"I’m about 70% confident on this" signals a reasoned estimate, not a fact claim.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Think in probabilities, not certainties
Replace "I think this will happen" with "I think there is a 70% chance this will happen."
Thinking in Bets - Walk down the ladder together in disagreements
In conflict, stop arguing about conclusions and descend together to the data level.
The Ladder of Inference - Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Pre-commit to resolution criteria before making a prediction
Define exactly what counts as "I was right" before the outcome happens.
Calibration Training - Anchor the conversation on criteria first
Set the standard the number should follow before any figure is named.
Anchoring Bias in Negotiation and Judgment - Compromising (moderate on both)
Split the difference when a fast, fair, good-enough solution beats holding out for the perfect one.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Find the crux: the one claim that, if changed, would change the conclusion
Locate the single empirical or value disagreement driving the whole dispute.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Principled Negotiation Insist On Objective Criteria
Agree on an independent standard — market rate, precedent, expert opinion — before applying it to the specific deal.
Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options
- Empirical Disputation
Locate the single empirical or value disagreement driving the whole dispute.
Find the crux: the one claim that, if changed, would change the conclusion
- Never Split The Difference In Practice During A Big Change
Chris Voss’s core move is tactical empathy: name and voice the other side’s emotions so they feel understood, which lowers their defenses and opens real bargaining. The signature tools — mirroring, labeling, calibrated questions, and the accusation audit — are practitioner tactics from FBI hostage negotiation, grounded in well-established psychology of emotion and rapport rather than tested as a packaged system.
- Reject Fixed Pie
Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
- Resolve Disagreement With Terms
Start by explicitly building the shared map before marking where it diverges.
Map what you actually agree on before diving into the disagreement
- When Getting To Yes Objective Criteria
Anchor the deal to independent standards — market rates, precedent, expert opinion — not willpower.
Insist on objective criteria
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