Coaching practices for When Grief Becomes Complicated
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The grief ambushes me at the worst times
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
Practices that may help
- Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Oscillate between grief and sense-making
Allow periods of pure grief alongside periods of meaning construction — both are necessary.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Regulate the oscillation consciously
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Recognise when loss is ambiguous, not just unacknowledged
Some losses have no clear end point — a relationship that faded, a parent with dementia, a country left behind.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Retell the story of the death and its aftermath
Construct a coherent, detailed narrative of the loss — including your experience before, during, and after.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Engaging Grief Directly
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Grief Window Technique
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- Active Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
- Anicca And Grief
When grieving a loss, ground the experience in the insight that what ended was always impermanent — and that grief itself is impermanent.
Integrating loss through the lens of anicca
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Calming Grief Surge
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
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