Coaching practices for I Genuinely Want to Make This Change and I Keep Not Doing it and It's Not Laziness It's Like Some Part of Me is Quietly Working Against it and I Can't See What That Part is So Afraid of Losing

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• I genuinely want to make this change and I keep not doing it, and it’s not laziness
• There’s a change I genuinely want and keep failing at, and it’s starting to feel like some hidden part of me is quietly working against it
• I genuinely want to do the thing
• Every time I set out to change something, I aim big and then just freeze
• I genuinely want to do the thing, but my whole space fights me on it

Practices that may help

1. Map your immunity to change
   Find the hidden competing commitments that are holding a desired change in place.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
2. Map your immunity to change
   Surface the hidden competing commitment that keeps sabotaging a change you genuinely want.
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
3. Reduce friction for good behaviors to near zero
   Make the healthy behavior the path of least resistance by removing every avoidable obstacle between you and starting.
   Environment Design for Behavior Change
4. Shrink the step below the fear threshold
   Make the change so small it provokes no resistance — then it actually gets done.
   Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps
5. Engineer your physical environment to create opportunity
   Rearrange space, tools, and access so the desired behavior is the path of least resistance.
   The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
6. Remove one small obstacle at a time
   Eliminate tiny points of friction so the good behavior becomes the path of least resistance.
   Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps
7. Identity-based habits
   “Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”
   Atomic Habits, Made Practical
8. Obstacle — find the inner obstacle in your way
   Identify the personal, internal block that actually stops you — a habit, feeling, or thought.
   WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan
9. Work through a decisional balance in the contemplation stage
   List the honest pros and cons of changing — and of not changing — to unlock stuck ambivalence.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
10. Reduce friction on desired behaviors
    Make the healthy choice two fewer steps than the unhealthy one.
    Nudge Theory, Made Practical

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