Coaching practices for There Are People on My Team I've Quietly Written Off I Expect Less They Deliver Less I Trust Less and I Want to Break That Loop by Actually Investing in One of Them First Before They've Earned it Back

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • There are people on my team I’ve quietly written off
  • I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
  • I’ve basically written my team off as weak
  • With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
  • I keep waiting for my manager to notice me and hand me more trust, and it’s not happening

Practices that may help

  1. Deliberately expand your inner circle
    Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  2. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
    Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
    The Trust Triangle
  3. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
    The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
  4. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
    Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical
  5. Invest in the relationship before you need it
    Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  6. Build reliability by making smaller, keepable promises
    Under-promise consistently, then exceed rather than over-promise and fall short.
    The Trust Triangle
  7. Build reliability through small, visible commitments
    Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical
  8. Audit and reduce your self-orientation
    Self-orientation is the denominator: a small increase in it wipes out gains in all three numerator variables.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical
  9. Give something genuine before you ask for something hard
    The trust account needs deposits before you make a withdrawal — invest in the relationship before demanding performance.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
  10. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
    Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical

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