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  • I notice my certainty about being right slams a door before someone’s view can even reach me
  • Once I’ve made up my mind, I notice I only ever see the evidence that proves me right and the rest just slides past me
  • Once I believe something, I only ever notice the things that prove me right
  • My opinions have somehow become who I am, so when someone pushes back it lands like a personal attack and I dig in
  • I’m very confident about a few things I think are true, and I’ve noticed I don’t actually hold any of them loosely

Practices that may help

  1. Practice intellectual humility as a spiritual discipline
    Hold your worldview lightly enough that new evidence can reach you.
    The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical
  2. Consider the opposite
    Actively argue the case against your first conclusion before accepting it.
    Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable
  3. Actively seek disconfirming evidence
    Deliberately look for evidence that your current belief is wrong.
    Superforecasting
  4. Hold beliefs as estimates, not identity commitments
    Treat each belief as a probability rather than a flag to plant.
    The Scout Mindset
  5. Practice intellectual humility: "I might be wrong"
    Maintain a live list of beliefs you hold with high confidence but acknowledge could be wrong — and say so out loud.
    The Socratic Method, Made Practical
  6. Specify what would falsify your belief before you look at evidence
    Write down what evidence would prove you wrong before you go looking.
    Falsification Thinking
  7. Deliberately seek out sources that disagree with you
    For any important belief, find and read the best-regarded opposing view.
    Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See
  8. Examine the evidence for and against
    Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
    Check the Facts, Made Practical
  9. Slow the reflexive loop
    Your current beliefs shape which data you select, reinforcing themselves — interrupt this loop deliberately.
    The Ladder of Inference
  10. Actively seek evidence that would prove you wrong
    Ask what would change your mind — and then look for it.
    The Scout Mindset

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