Coaching practices for Every Time I Get Through a Feared Situation I Credit the Crutch I Only Didn't Collapse Because I Held the Wall So I Never Actually Find Out What Would Happen If I Went in Once Without it and Let the Result Speak for Itself
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- Every time I get through a feared situation I credit the crutch
- I only get through hard moments by clutching my little crutches
- I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
- I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches
- I get through the hard situations, but only with my little crutches
Practices that may help
- Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical - Run exposures without safety behaviors
Do induction exercises while deliberately leaving out the coping props you normally rely on.
Interoceptive Exposure for Panic - Gradually drop safety behaviors
Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical - Eliminate safety behaviors
Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them - Dropping Safety Behaviors Within Experiments
Remove the subtle avoidance strategies (safety behaviors) that prevent experiments from genuinely testing the belief.
Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World - Run a post-discomfort review after each approach
After engaging with discomfort, explicitly confirm that you survived and what you learned.
Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth - Set realistic expectations before each exposure
Before you enter the situation, write down your feared prediction — then check it against reality afterward.
The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical - Decatastrophize by following the fear to its logical endpoint
Ask "and then what?" repeatedly until the feared outcome is its actual size, not an imagined worst case.
Cognitive Restructuring: The CBT Method for Changing Unhelpful Thoughts - Behavioral experiments
Test an anxious prediction in real life and compare what you feared with what happened.
The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical - Plan how to repair each worst case
If the worst case happened anyway, write how you’d get back to where you are now.
Fear-Setting, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Exposure Therapy Drop Safety Behaviors
Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
Eliminate safety behaviors
- Drop Safety Behaviors Exposure
Safety behaviors are actions people take to prevent feared outcomes during anxious situations — sitting to avoid fainting, avoiding eye contact to seem less socially threatening, checking repeatedly to prevent disaster. Paul Salkovskis identified them as a central maintenance mechanism: they prevent the person from learning that the feared outcome would not have happened anyway. Fading them — systematically reducing their use — is an evidence-supported component of CBT for anxiety disorders, with the strongest evidence in panic and social anxiety.
- Fade Anxiety Crutches
Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
Gradually drop safety behaviors
- Dropping Safety Behaviors Exposure Therapy
Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
- Exposure Without Crutches
Do induction exercises while deliberately leaving out the coping props you normally rely on.
Run exposures without safety behaviors
- Exposure Without Safety Behavior
Enter the feared situation without the safety behavior and observe what actually happens.
Run a disconfirmation experiment without the safety behavior
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