Coaching practices for A Feeling Shows Up and I'm Instantly Grabbing at it or Shoving it Away Clinging to the Good Ones Bracing Against the Bad and I Can't Seem to Just Let Something Arrive and Leave on Its Own Without Making it My Whole Afternoon
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- The second a hard feeling shows up I clamp down on it and shove it away, but it just keeps coming back louder
- A feeling shows up and I’m instantly grabbing at it or shoving it away
- The moment a hard feeling rises I clamp down against it and brace, trying to push it away
- The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it
- I spend so much energy trying to push down or get rid of what I feel, and it just comes back stronger
Practices that may help
- RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical - Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass
Watch thoughts, sensations, and emotions arise and dissolve without grabbing or pushing.
Shikantaza: Just Sitting - Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical - Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Acceptance (willingness)
Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - A — Allow the experience to be as it is
Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Letting go as a moment-to-moment practice
Make releasing — rather than gripping — your default response to whatever arises during the day.
The Untethered Soul, In Practice - Urge Surfing: Riding Out the Impulse Without Acting
Treat an urge to act impulsively like a wave — observe it rise and fall without being swept away.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Savoring the present moment
When something good is happening, deliberately slow down and soak in the sensory detail.
Savoring: Getting More From the Good
Related concerns
- When Psychological Flexibility Expand And Breathe
When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
- Face Your Feelings
Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
- How To Sit With Difficult Emotions
When a difficult emotion arises during open monitoring, stay in the witnessing position rather than contracting or escaping.
Meeting emotion in open presence
- When Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Titrated Approach Shutdown
Bring brief, curious attention to the shutdown itself — then return to ground — rather than fighting or fleeing it.
Approach the shutdown experience in small doses
- When Expressive Suppression Costs Reappraisal As Alternative
Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
- When Radical Acceptance Rain Allow
Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
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