Coaching practices for I'm About to Meet Someone Important for the First Time and I Have No Read on Them Yet I Want a Couple of Things to Actually Watch for in Those First Few Minutes So I'm Not Flying Blind on How to Pitch Myself
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- I’m about to meet someone important for the first time and I have no read on them yet
- Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic
- I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
- I lead straight in with my pitch and watch people’s guard go up before I’ve finished a sentence
- I’m about to walk into a new job and a new neighborhood, and I’m already bracing for it to be awkward, rehearsing how they probably won’t take to me
Practices that may help
- Read assertiveness and responsiveness quickly
Observe whether someone talks more than they listen (assertiveness) and whether they show emotion openly (responsiveness).
Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate - Practise your story before you need it
Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Set your posture before high-stakes moments
Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained - Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Pre-expose an idea before formally proposing it
Introduce a concept informally and repeatedly before you need a decision on it — familiarity softens resistance.
The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical - Prime identity before the ask — "what kind of person are you?"
Invite the person to describe who they are in terms that align with the behavior you’re requesting.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Match task-first vs. relationship-first opening
Open the way your audience prefers — some need rapport first, others need the agenda first.
The Platinum Rule
Related concerns
- How Do I Phrase An Introduction On A Dating Website
Open the way your audience prefers — some need rapport first, others need the agenda first.
Match task-first vs. relationship-first opening
- Personal Elevator Pitch
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
- What To Prepare For A Job Interview That Im Going Conduct
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
- Anticipated Contact Psychology
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
- Applying To Job Postings That Ask For Personal Information Like Address Upfront
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
- Async First Communication
Treat real-time communication as the exception, not the default — most things do not require an immediate response.
Default to asynchronous communication
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