Coaching practices for When Something Confirms What I Already Think I Swallow it Whole and When Something Contradicts Me I Poke Holes Until it Disappears and I'm Realizing I'm Not Actually Updating on the Evidence I'm Just Defending the Position I Started with and Calling it Staying the Course
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- When something confirms what I already think I swallow it whole, and when something contradicts me I poke holes until it disappears
- I only ever seem to run into facts that prove me right, and I’m starting to suspect that’s because I’m quietly steering toward them
- Once I’ve made up my mind, I notice I only ever see the evidence that proves me right and the rest just slides past me
- After things play out I always feel like I "knew it all along," but I honestly can’t tell if I actually changed my mind or just rewrote my own memory to match how it turned out.
- Once I believe something, I only ever notice the things that prove me right
Practices that may help
- Update beliefs explicitly when new information arrives
Treat new information as a reason to state a revised probability, not as confirmation of the old one.
Thinking in Bets - Actively seek evidence that would prove you wrong
Ask what would change your mind — and then look for it.
The Scout Mindset - Consider the opposite
Actively argue the case against your first conclusion before accepting it.
Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable - Maintain a belief-tracking log with timestamps
Record your beliefs and confidence levels before evidence arrives, so you can see whether you actually updated.
Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See - Actively seek disconfirming evidence
Deliberately look for evidence that your current belief is wrong.
Superforecasting - Update your view out loud when the evidence warrants it
Say explicitly when you’ve shifted — this is what good reasoning looks like, not weakness.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Examine the evidence for and against
Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Actively seek information that disconfirms your view
Deliberately look for the best evidence against your current position before committing to it.
Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are - Actively seek evidence that would disconfirm your belief
Ask: "What would change my mind?" and then look for exactly that.
Bayesian Thinking: How to Update Beliefs Rationally - Slow the reflexive loop
Your current beliefs shape which data you select, reinforcing themselves — interrupt this loop deliberately.
The Ladder of Inference
Related concerns
- How To Challenge Confirmation Bias
For any belief you are testing, explicitly generate the strongest case for the opposing view.
Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis
- When Naive Realism Seek Disconfirming Information
Deliberately look for the best evidence against your current position before committing to it.
Actively seek information that disconfirms your view
- When Scout Mindset Seek Disconfirming Evidence
Ask what would change your mind — and then look for it.
Actively seek evidence that would prove you wrong
- When Superforecasting Actively Seek Disconfirmation
Deliberately look for evidence that your current belief is wrong.
Actively seek disconfirming evidence
- When The Ladder Of Inference Slow The Reflexive Loop
Your current beliefs shape which data you select, reinforcing themselves — interrupt this loop deliberately.
Slow the reflexive loop
- Debiasing Confirmation Bias
Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek, notice, and remember information that confirms existing beliefs, while ignoring or discounting contradictory evidence. It is among the most robustly documented cognitive biases. Debiasing is difficult and partial — knowing about it helps less than most people assume — but structured practices (actively seeking disconfirming evidence, pre-mortems, and adversarial collaboration) reliably reduce its impact.
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