Coaching practices for I've Named My Top Values but Looking Back at the Actual Decisions I Made This Week I'm Not Sure My Behavior Honored a Single One of Them and I Want to Hold My Real Choices Up Against the List Instead of Just Feeling Vaguely Off
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
- I’ve done all the clarifying and ranking and I have this lovely list of values
- I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
- I say I value family, or health, or creativity
- I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
Practices that may help
- The values–behavior gap check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
Values Card Sort - Take value-consistent committed action
Translate each value into one concrete behavior you can do this week.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Check action against stated values — the alignment review
Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
The Pythagorean Evening Review - Values clarification through lived evidence
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice - Rank your top values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Excavate your actual values from your history
Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Run a values card sort
Sort a deck of value words into keep/maybe/discard to surface what actually matters.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - The forced-rank sort
Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
Values Card Sort - Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
The 10-10-10 Rule - Resolving a decision with two competing values
When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
Values Card Sort
Related concerns
- Choose From Your Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Rank your top values
- Choose Your Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
- Create Vs Claim Value
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Values clarification through lived evidence
- Decide By Your Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
- Forced Choice Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
- How To Make Values Based Decisions
When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
Resolving a decision with two competing values
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