Coaching practices for Choose Your Values

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Choose Your Values, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
• If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
• I say I value family, or health, or creativity
• I drift through my days reacting to whatever’s loudest and I’ve lost the thread of what actually matters to me
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them

Practices that may help

1. Rank your top values
   Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
2. The forced-rank sort
   Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
   Values Card Sort
3. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
4. Clarify values and choose them actively
   Name what genuinely matters to you — not what should matter — and make it a live choice today.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
5. Values Card Sort
   A values card sort is a structured exercise — originally developed in motivational interviewing — that forces you to rank competing values by choosing between them rather than claiming you hold all of them equally. The comparison process surfaces implicit priorities that self-report alone misses. Evidence for values-clarification as a lever for behavior change is observational to clinical; the specific card-sort format has good face validity but limited direct trial data.
6. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
7. Run a values card sort
   Sort a deck of value words into keep/maybe/discard to surface what actually matters.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
8. Values Clarification, Made Practical
   Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
9. Resolving a decision with two competing values
   When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
   Values Card Sort
10. Map your values across the four life domains
    Write one core value statement for each domain — work, relationships, personal growth, leisure — before touching the bullseye.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical

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